Manners and etiquette have transformed a lot over the years, with each generation redefining what is seen as polite and appropriate behavior. For Generation Z, many traditional customs once deemed crucial are now considered outdated and unnecessary. Here are 18 forms of etiquette that Gen Z finds overrated.
“As far as discussing pay, as long as this information is freely given and not rudely demanded, Miss Manners has no objection, although she would prefer it be confined to the workplace. Career talk in social situations is rarely titillating.” Employers hate this trend, but Gen Z encourages open discussions about pay to promote transparency and equity, which we can definitely get down with.
Formal Greetings and Farewells
Everything about Gen Z is about feeling casual, like everyone is your buddy. Formal greetings and farewells have gone away like an Irish goodbye, and informal interactions have now taken center stage.
Handwritten Thank-You Notes
Once a requirement of gift-receiving etiquette, people would buy boxes of thank-you cards to send out after birthdays, weddings, and showers. While still appreciated by some, digital expressions of gratitude are more common and accepted among Gen Z, whether it’s a quick text, a longer email, or a social media shout-out.
Avoiding Phones in Social Gatherings
An etiquette coach on Business Insider says, “Using your phone in a social setting immediately signals that your attention is divided, and this can be a turnoff to a prospective employer, a date, or even a friend.” However, Gen Z has normalized having their phones out at all times and integrated posting on social media into every aspect of their lives.
Not Using Phones at the Table
In a similar vein to the last point, there once was a time when there was only a house phone, and that was not to be answered during dinner time. When cell phones started making their way into our daily lives, many families maintained a ‘no phone at the table’ rule. With the integration of technology into daily life, strict rules about phone use during meals have relaxed, and now we see people at restaurants scrolling the internet instead of talking to each other.
Formal Dress Codes for Every Occasion
People used to put on a suit and tie or dress to go to work every day. They also used to wear sports coats for more casual social gatherings. Today, business casual is often the closest people get to dressing up, and that is only for special occasions. Casual and comfortable attire is often preferred by Gen Z.
Addressing Individuals by Mr./Mrs. Last Name
Adults used to be addressed as ‘Mr.’ or ‘Mrs.’ before their last name, which indicated respect. First-name basis interactions are becoming more common, even in professional settings. This creates a space of equality amongst everyone instead of a feeling of hierarchy.
Correct Use of Utensils
People should still mind their table manners, but formal dinners are far less common for Gen Zers. Since meals have become more casual, knowing the proper fork to use with your salad versus seafood has become a lost art. But please, Gen Z, still use a fork, even if it’s the wrong one.
RSVPing for Events with Physical Cards
Major events used to come with a nice invitation in the mail that included an RSVP card to mail back with your ‘yes’ or ‘no.’ As electronic correspondence became more popular, people shifted from mailing back RSVP cards to sending an email or text. As invitation etiquette has continued to evolve, or maybe devolve, formal invitations have become far less common, with people sending more email invitations or Facebook events.
Waiting for Introductions in Social Settings
It used to be the formally polite thing to introduce people to each other or wait for your host to do so. In today’s bold networking world, it is completely normal to introduce yourself in any setting. “Thinking you always need to wait for someone else to introduce you is one of the 15 signs you are actually too polite,” according to Reader’s Digest.
Avoiding Elbows on the Table
As a child, our parents always told us to keep our elbows off the table. It was once respected, but this rule is now often disregarded in casual dining settings for Gen Z; ultimately, they don’t understand why it was ever a rule in the first place.
Making Eye Contact During Conversations
Making eye contact during a conversation was taught as a must to show you are engaged in the conversation and confident. Today, Gen Z has shifted away from this hard and fast rule, as some people may feel that too much eye contact is aggressive and prefer to show their engagement in other ways.
Avoiding Discussing Personal Life at Work
Older generations liked to keep their work and professional lives completely separate, leaving what happens outside of the office as an off-limits topic at work. Gen Z values authenticity and connection, making personal conversations more acceptable. However, when the lines are blurred, it can open the door for employers to use your personal life against you.
Not Wearing Hats Indoors
People used to wear hats outdoors all of the time, but then for men, they came off inside. Fashion and personal expression have made this rule less relevant, and people are wearing hats wherever they please.
Avoiding Interruptions
While still considered rude, the fast-paced nature of digital communication has blurred the lines. Instead of giving someone your undivided attention, it is considered normal for Gen Z to be answering texts and scrolling social media during conversations.
Strict Adherence to Gift-Giving Protocols
The focus has shifted towards thoughtful, personalized gifts rather than adhering to traditional etiquette. Who knows what you are supposed to give on a 15th anniversary anyway? Although, with the internet, it’s easier than ever to find these rules and follow them.
Waiting to Eat Until Everyone Is Served
Waiting for everyone to have their food to begin eating was a social rule that was surprising to see go. Gen Z tends to lean more casual and will begin eating as soon as their food is in front of them, to “eat while it’s hot.”
Avoiding Talking About Controversial Topics
We were taught never to talk about religion or politics in mixed company, but now these are some of the top topics anywhere. Gen Z values open dialogue and activism, making discussions about politics and social issues more common. While some find this liberating, others may feel the topics become too divisive when constantly discussed.