Ah, Boomers – the generation that brought us rock ‘n’ roll, civil rights movements, and the moon landing. They’ve certainly made their mark on the world. But let’s face it, some of the phrases they use just don’t quite fit into today’s conversations. Let’s take a look at some of these 17 classic Boomer phrases, and why it’s probably time to retire them.
“You Sound Like a Broken Record”
“To sound like a broken record means to repeat something over and over in an annoying fashion,” says Grammarist. Remember when vinyl records were the primary way to listen to music? The boomer generation sure does, and that’s where the phrase “you sound like a broken record” comes from. But considering many young people today have never even used a record player, the analogy is lost on them.
“Back in My Day…”
Boomers often use “back in my day” to compare the present to the past, usually to highlight how much harder or better things were back then. While it’s interesting to hear about the past, this phrase can come off as dismissive of the current generation’s challenges and achievements.
“Money Doesn’t Grow on Trees”
The old chestnut “money doesn’t grow on trees” is often used to remind younger generations about the value of money, and while it’s true that financial wisdom is important, this phrase can feel patronising. It assumes a lack of understanding about money that many young people today, grappling with student loans and high living costs, are all too familiar with.
“You’re Too Young to Understand”
“You’re too young to understand” is a real conversation killer. It dismisses younger people’s perspectives outright, suggesting that age is the only path to understanding, when in reality, everyone has unique experiences and insights, regardless of age. By using this phrase, Boomers might miss out on valuable viewpoints from younger generations.
“Pull Yourself Up by Your Bootstraps”
While the saying “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” promotes self-reliance and hard work, it can also ignore the systemic barriers and challenges that many people face. Not everyone has the same opportunities or starting points in life, and hard work alone doesn’t always guarantee success.
“I’m Not Racist, But…”
Any sentence that starts this way is bound to end badly; “I’m not racist, but” is often used to preface a statement that is, in fact, racist. It’s a way of trying to shield yourself from criticism while still making an offensive comment.
“Kids These Days…”
Complaining about the younger generation is a time-honoured tradition, but it’s not very productive. Every generation has its quirks and challenges, and painting all young people with the same brush is unfair. Instead of saying “kids these days…”, why not take the time to understand what makes the younger generation tick?
“At Your Age, I Already Had a House and Kids”
Saying “at your age, I already had a house and kids” can be incredibly frustrating for younger people to hear. The economic landscape has changed drastically over the decades, and what was possible for Boomers isn’t necessarily feasible today. Housing markets, job stability, and educational costs are just a few of the factors that have shifted.
“You’re Just Too Sensitive”
Labelling someone as too sensitive dismisses their feelings and experiences, and it’s a phrase that often shuts down important conversations about respect and inclusivity. Rather than criticising someone’s emotional response, it’s better to listen and try to understand where they’re coming from.
“The Customer Is Always Right”
The mantra from the retail world of the past “the customer is always right” can lead to unrealistic expectations and unreasonable behaviour. While customer service is important, it’s also crucial to recognise that employees deserve respect and fair treatment, too.
“Why Can’t You Be More Like…”
Comparing someone to others, especially in a negative light, is a sure-fire way to hurt feelings and damage relationships. Everyone is unique, with their own strengths and challenges, so instead of saying “why can’t you be more like…” it’s more constructive to appreciate and support the individual for who they are.
“Because I Said So”
The authoritarian phrase “because I said so” doesn’t leave room for discussion or understanding, and while it might have worked with younger children, it’s not effective with adults or even teenagers. People appreciate explanations and the opportunity to voice their opinions.
“That’s Not How We Did It in My Day”
Times change, and so do methods and technologies, therefore saying “that’s not how we did it in my day” can hinder progress and innovation. Embracing new ideas and being open to change is important, so instead of clinging to the past, Boomers can share their wisdom while also being open to learning.
“You’ll Understand When You’re Older”
Hearing “you’ll understand when you’re older” can be incredibly frustrating for younger people who feel their concerns are being dismissed. While experience does bring wisdom, it’s important to recognise that younger people can also have valuable insights that shouldn’t be brushed off.
“In My Opinion,”
Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but it’s important to share it respectfully and be open to others’ perspectives. Starting a statement with “In my opinion,” can sometimes come across as dismissive of other viewpoints, when it’s more productive to present your thoughts as part of a dialogue.
“Boys Will Be Boys”
Long been used to excuse inappropriate behaviour by young men, “boys will be boys” perpetuates harmful stereotypes and dismisses the need for accountability. Instead, it’s important to promote respectful behaviour and hold everyone to the same standards, encouraging positive actions.
“You Should Smile More”
Telling someone to smile can be intrusive and patronising, especially if it’s a stranger or in a professional setting; everyone has the right to express their emotions authentically without feeling pressured to put on a happy face, and nothing is more annoying for a young person than a Boomer telling them to cheer up.